The One That Got Away

In LOVE, the one concept that many of us fear, yet don’t truly understand, is knowing if we made the right decision between leaving someone we needed to let go or letting the one that we needed to stay, get away.

This has become such a tough topic to understand because in today’s world of modern dating everything is faster and much more decisive than its ever been before. We treat dating a person more like trying on a pair of shoe’s at a discount shoe store, more than treating them like a unique and complex being who we need to fully explore before coming to a concrete decision about. This is the way of life in general nowadays and what it is causing is a generation of young men and women who are QUICK to dismiss someone out of their life over a minor infraction and then wondering what could have been later on.

One thing that we truly believe is that the grass is greener on the other side for all of us, but I am here to tell you it DAMN WELL IS NOT. The idea that “there’s someone out there for everyone” and you just have to simply BUMP INTO your soul mate somewhere in your journey through life is a load of BS. Fact is, there IS NOT someone out there for everyone and many people will die alone and never get to feel what LOVE is all about. But those of us who have been so blessed as to experience love often take it for granted because we believe that “another good person is just right around the corner.” Let me let you in on a little secret: The one that GOT AWAY often times is the one YOU let get away, but is the one that is MOST LIKELY to provide you with the happiness you always wanted.

Yes, “The one that got away” IS typically the person that you should have NEVER let out of your life. All that ‘Destiny‘ and ‘Everything Happens For A Reason’ talk is NOT a good enough reason for you to let the best thing that ever happened to you walk right out of your life. Just because you break your mother’s glass vase, you shouldn’t say it was DESTINY for it to break as your excuse for not even attempting to glue it back together.

Often times when we subscribe to the GREEN GRASS theory, we tend to ignore the fact that everything we want is in the person that we are with, yet we are too P*SSY to man-up (Or woman-up) and do the right thing by that person and do all in our power to keep them at our sides. We let them go days without telling them how much we care about them and how important they are; We take their bodies and the pleasure they give us for granted – forgetting how sacred and special the first kiss of their lips was or the first time you passionately made love to that person and knew you never wanted that ONE moment in time to end. We forget about how that person made your heart jump every time you saw they called or texted you; We ignore all the special little moments like the road trips, overseas birthday trips, or just sitting on the couch playing Madden together or hotel pillow-fighting.

We allow ourselves to buy into the media-hype of excessive quality dating being a reality, when the reality is 90% of people out there you just INHERENTLY will not be compatible with, therefore making your single time alone a fruitless, tireless and thankless journey through a parade of the chronically-undateable. All the while searching for that thing they call TRUE LOVE which we arrogantly let slip through our hands because of pride, hubris and unrealistic expectations of a partner.

For those of you who just LET someone get away recently, you need to sit down and analyze if it is truly worth it to have that person NOT be a part of your life anymore, because once they are OUT they are GONE. For those of you who feel their relationship slipping into WANTING to let that person get away, I suggest you take stock of the REAL reasons you don’t want that relationship anymore, and if it’s based in SELFISHNESS you need to WAKE UP and do all you can to repair the LOVE you are so readily helping to destroy. And if you have already let that person get away and they are GONE FOREVER, take solace in the memories of that person and pray that you can find a love like that again – because theres a good chance you WON’T.

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Ho-Hum

I beeen working allllllllllllllllllllllllll week so very hard. And its not CLOSE to being over on an energy scale. I am still at work and gotta go and add the final touches for the BFFs bday. What I am going to wear is BEYOND me right now…

Last night, I was in the east and I passed by the ex’s house and had a weird feeling… Ever need closure from someone that you know you’ll never get? A genuine apology really that’s all. I’m not losing sleep over it. I have moved on most definitely…but I guess I still have expectations of him as a friend at least that he will never do…Meh It Is What It Is…

— Bianca Oliver (via javiidoll)

This Whole Swimwear Look Is what I’m going for in MIAMI…I’m determined to find it. The way these retro styled looks accentuate a woman’s body for the beauty that it is. I’m a sucker for a Retro Boudoir Swimsuit!! Get Em Bee!